Why did I decide to do this one (and it’s more of a personal thing for me) It’s really about me stopping myself from having fun. I’m great at committing to do things for others (attend Halloween events together, speak to groups, do my videos … either live or recorded). All of those things are either with a group or for my business. When it is just for me, I can find all kinds of excuses to not carry through on my commitments … fear grips me so I give up.

Over the past year, I’ve really upped my game on saying Yes to me and carrying through on that Yes. This past weekend was a great example of the carry through. I had signed up for an all-day Barn Tour in my area. I’d get to be around horses which I love and be outdoors on a beautiful fall day. I was really excited about it and had told many of my friends. When I learned it was going to be a self-guided tour, that old voice inside my head started telling me NO! It won’t be fun as you won’t know anyone, you have no one to go with you, yadda yadda! You get it. I’m happy to report that I drowned that voice and had a blast on the tour! This is what I’m talking about … not allowing that inner voice of fear to hijack my life and do fun things anyway even by myself. I’ve even made a few new friends.

2. Kicking it Old School …. Going back to my roots … rediscovering my own purpose in this life and helping others to do the same

As you have heard me say many times in the past, I’ve been searching. Searching for where to go in my life (new home to live in, new programs to offer in my business) and what was important to me. As I reflected and researched, I opened up to allow my inner voice (my intuition) to direct me on that path. I’m so excited to have done this.

I now live in a place that brings me so much joy and happiness every DAY! I feel so blessed. And, going back to my roots of purpose, comfort zone, and manifesting based on my intuitive spirit has opened up so many opportunities … an upcoming summit, a spiritually aligned podcast interview just to name a few. When I live on purpose, life flows!

3. Giving myself Permission to rest … so hard for me to do when all I’ve been conditioned to do it to DO! And, when I allow myself to rest, I get so much more done.

I’ve never been one to value the beauty of down time or a nap during the day. I’ve always been that go, go, go person pushing through until I was so exhausted I would break down in tears. Recently, I discovered my Human Design Archetype. (Google it. It’s a real thing.)

I am an Emotional Projector. That means that I have bursts of energy followed by needing down times for rest. That’s how I’m wired to be my very best. I’m still not there with naps. I do take downtime to walk, meditate, reflect which really allows me to be more creative and more productive. I seem to have more time in my day without pushing through. Such a healthier way to be! 

The 1 thing I am giving up … feeling guilty. You see, as a perfectionist (DUH, Virgo much), everything I attempt to do is framed as “If you can’t do it perfectly, keep trying until you get it perfect!” That mantra wrapping itself in every brain cell I have is so limiting and has me carrying around so much GUILT!

What am I doing to kick this mantra of needing to feel guilty to the curb? Switching it up with a new mantra.  

“I’m no longer available for perfection and the guilt that comes with not having achieved it.”

 Yep, that’s it! And, of course, doing the work behind this age old pattern to heal myself and my limiting behaviors so I can allow myself to be perfectly imperfect.

What about you? What new things are you trying and what are you letting go of?

I’d love to know … email me at denise@denisehansard.com  

“Take others by the hand to lead”

“It’s my way, let’s get on board”

These are just a few of the leadership styles that are embraced when it comes to leading. Is one better than another? Or do you look at what each style is saying about what’s on the inside of who you are?

I’ve been working in a coaching group helping me to see my leadership style through the interactions of horses. You see, animals show us who we really are. It’s all about which horse’s behavior do we identify with the most and why we do identify. 

I’ve been told by many people, that I am a natural animal whisperer. If you watched last week’s YouTube video, you can see that I take on the role of nurturer when it comes to animals. I was trying ever so gently to shoo the turkey away without harming him. (What I didn’t show or tell you was that I had a pink fuzzy sock in my hand waving it at him to shoo him away … nurture much?!)

Is leading with a nurturing quality a bad thing?

This is the question my coach has me pondering throughout the course of this work. She’s not advising on it one way or another. It’s a question to go deep within – inner reflection – to decide who I truly am and who I am becoming.

Here’s what I have found out about myself …

Nurturing means I want people to like me, to trust me, to know that I will take care of them.

Boom! This realization hit me right in the gut! And I know I’m not alone in this. I see many women leading with this same type of style. Making sure they do what needs to be done along with making sure they are there for others on their team. Or, maybe, it’s leading up by taking care of everyone else … bosses, peers … as this is just who you are … a nurturer.

What I learned in this program was to be me without giving away all of me.

Take up space … don’t be afraid to speak up and tell your truth. Not the truth of what others have told you to embody. Not what the leadership books have said to do. Be seen and heard for your own beliefs and heart felt vision. You have it within you to embrace your own style, your own worthiness in leading without looking like everyone else. Be YOU!

Set boundaries … stop being so concerned about what others think. Put yourself 1^st in only the way that you can. Lead with no drama, no ego, no competition. When you choose your worthiness and be YOU, leading intuitively becomes the norm.

Leaders become a great leader through who they are … not by what they do.

 
What about you? Do you nurture? Do you boss? Do you bring the team along with you?

How do you lead? What strengths do you find in your leadership style along with where can you become more of you?

If you’re ready to dive deeper into leading in your own Unique way, then you’re ready to apply for the Women Leaders Cohort program.

https://denisehansardlifecoach.com/women-leaders-cohort/

As a fully embodied Leader (in your personal life and professional life) … paint the possibilities to become the best leader you have within you.