TAME YOUR FEAR THROUGH ROAR – In 4 Steps!
So, we are in the throes of ROARING through our FEAR! We are on step 3 of this process.
How are you doing so far? Have you identified how fear shows up in your life? Have you written down the feelings associated with your fear?
This is the process in which you can learn to choose differently. Instead of allowing circumstances to control you, take control and define how it is you want to be in those circumstances. This is key and takes practice. Once you notice how you are “being” in those circumstances, you have choices. Choices can change your life!
Let’s move to the next step: A – Accept
A – Accept a new feeling that you can now associate with fear. Fear is just that: an opportunity to step out of what we know now and into the unknown where beautiful things can happen. Breathe into this newness of growth, allowing your mind to catch up with your feelings. Own it and make it yours.
Being able to accept a new feeling associated with that fear state is a way to make fear become your friend instead of your foe. Talk about power and becoming empowered, what better place to be than to make defined choices on how you feel and think in difficult circumstances.
Sounds simple, doesn’t it. Yet, the most challenging aspect of this whole process is to notice your thoughts at the time you are thinking them. That is important, as you want to be able to change your behavior by becoming aware at the exact moment you have a choice to change.
This practice of ROAR is commonly called a “pattern-interrupt process”: a behavioral shift. We begin to notice the pattern that has been our story for so long and literally choose a different one.
“Is this really true for me?”
Our thoughts, our memories and our stories have an attachment to us—our stories become our memories. Good and bad memories latch on to us as muscle memory. We tend to only remember the bad (failures) muscle memories, including those created by fearful moments in our lives. Whatever story we had in the past has literally become part of our bodies and made us who we are. This then creates our thoughts. When we begin to recognize our thoughts, we have the power to ask, “Is it really me?”
Do the homework:
- Identify how fear shows up for you
- Write down the feeling associated with this fear state
- Make a choice on feeling differently