TAME YOUR FEAR THROUGH ROAR – In 4 Steps!
We are now on the last step in this 4 step process. Here is what we have accomplished so far with this ROAR process:
R – Recognize that fear is just a state of being in your life at this moment—and that it will not last forever. Our bodies aren’t physically able to maintain this highly charged emotional state for long. Once we recognize our fear and how it shows up for us, we can move to the next step.
O – Open up to how your body has been conditioned to feel in fear. Are you feeling constricted, as though you’re being choked or suffocated? Or just tired? Be open to these feelings and to the possibility of choosing to feel differently. You can decide to no longer view it as debilitating and limiting—choose to see and feel it as more powerful and enriching—because this is an opportunity for you.
A – Accept the new feeling that you now associate with fear. Fear is just that: an opportunity to step out of what we know now and into the unknown where beautiful things can happen. Breathe into this newness of growth, allowing your mind to catch up with your feelings. Own it and make it yours.
The last step is really a two fold step:
R – Release your old feelings, your old fear story and Replace it with the new one. When you begin to feel the old story surfacing, immediately stop whatever it is that you are doing; literally hit your internal pause button. Say out loud or to yourself, “This is no longer me. I choose to move out of my comfort into something more.”
This practice of ROAR is commonly called a “pattern-interrupt process”: a behavioral shift. We begin to notice the pattern that has been our story for so long and literally choose a different one.
Our thoughts, our memories and our stories have an attachment to us—our stories become our memories. Good and bad memories latch on to us as muscle memory. We tend to only remember the bad (failures) muscle memories, including those created by fearful moments in our lives.
Whatever story you have had in the past has literally become part of your body and have made you who you are. This then creates your thoughts. When you begin to recognize your thoughts as these thoughts are happening, you have the power to ask, “Is it really me?”
A pain, a hurt, a loneliness … these are all parts of our stories from our past. But we also have memories of successes: getting the “A” on a test when you didn’t think it was possible or winning an award or million dollar project. Remembering the successes in your life—this muscle memory of success from your past—is what you need to put first in your being. You must invite these success memories to replace the less empowering thoughts: the memory of failure.
We have our story, but we are not our story.
We have our memories, but we are not our memories.
You now have the basics for “Taming your Fears through ROAR”. Put it into practice. Allow fear to become your friend through this process and not continue to be your foe keeping you stuck in the comfort zone of pain.
TAKE THAT NEXT STEP!
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