As we near the end of 2014, there may be some of you whom are feeling the pull of CHANGE! And to be able to CHANGE, you will need to let go of some things.
For me, I am feeling this way. I have realized that there are some things in my life that I just need to change, to let go of – relationships, behaviors, ways of thinking, homes, careers – you name it. Not the easiest thing to do and it is necessary to do in order for me to continue my growth. Is there anyone else out there that feels the same? So what is the step process of letting go and moving forward without feeling as if you are losing it all.
First is identifying that which you need to let go of – let’s take the biggest one and that is relationships. Everything in our life revolves around relationship. We have a relationship with ourselves – our way of thinking, acting and just being. We have a relationship with other people – our loved ones or the thoughts around the potential of a loved one. We have a relationship with things – our career, our homes, or anything that we have personalized over the years. So, step 1 – identify that relationship that is no longer serving you; meaning not bringing you an opportunity to grow and be happy.
Second step in this process of letting go is to honor the sadness you are feeling. Just being able to grieve in the process of knowing that you can’t hold onto that relationship anymore will be the greatest thing you can do for you and will also be one of the hardest things to do. Cry, shout, scream, eat ice cream! Just do whatever it takes to honor the sadness that you feel during this time.
Third step is to STOP the sadness. Allow yourself to be sad and then move on. This will take great determination and commitment. Once you understand and acknowledge this process, then you will be able to move beyond the sadness, to move into something more joyous in your life. AS you are letting go of one thing, other better things will come to you.
You can’t have it all. You can’t have a wanna be relationship with anyone or anything when this relationship is just bringing you down and only giving you moments of happiness. You deserve happiness all the time!
So, let it go! Change means to grow (or according to Webster “to become different” or “to become something else”). Isn’t that what we are all striving to do in our life – to become more than we were before today.